1. Inculcate a growth mindset
People who have a “growth mindset” think that basic skills, such as intelligence or talent, can be developed through commitment, effort, and hard work.
2. Praise for academic success
“Well done,” “Good job,” or “You’re very smart” are frequently used as positive affirmations for activities well done, whether they be in academic success or athletic accomplishments.
3. Be sincere with your praise
Sometimes we purposefully praise our kids to make them feel good, inspire them, support a particular activity, or shield them from damaged feelings. Children won’t feel very encouraged, though, if encouraging comments are not seen as true and honest.
4. Make them a problem solver
“You came up with an excellent answer for the last question.” instead of branding them a ‘genius’ for solving the question. This will inculcate respect for their problem solving skills.
5. Praise for being kind
Tell your kids how wonderful and generous they are! Say, “You are kind to give up your cookie” instead of “you’re an angel for giving a cookie away.
6. Do not manipulate
Saying, “You did a great job. The following time, you’ll definitely perform well,” sounds like a manipulation. “I really like the answer you came up with,” sounds like spontaneous praise.
7. Come up with details in praising them
Do not use general phrases like, “What a fantastic picture!” Try saying, “I enjoy the variety of colours you’ve used in this drawing.” It will have a larger impact.
8. Increase their confidence
Instead of saying, “You are such a master at solving puzzles!”, say “ You are good at trying different ways to solve a tough puzzle.” This will instantly bolster motivation and resilience in the child.
9. Promote self worth
A sentence like “Good! I know you can do better” is meant to inspire the child to work harder the next time.